There are so many parts of parenting that can feel cruel and unusual in their punishing qualities. Timeouts, if you do them. Teaching your kids to tie their shoes, if velcro isn’t handy. You name it.

But I’d like to take a second and propose that blackmailing your kid might be a good idea. Case in point: Ryan Gosling dancing in this video. Parent blackmail has never seemed so important or educational…

And then he became the guy he is today. I feel like there are a million lessons all popping and locking from inside this video for parents and kids everywhere. Can you decode them?